This post was first posted on my first blog in 2015 after my 30th birthday. I loved working on it and writing down the things I have learned. I wanted to change the format a bit and share it again. So, here you go.
We all learn different things as we go through life. I won’t say my life was hard or super easy. I had my struggles and challenges, it made me the person I am today.
Here I would like to share with you 30 things I have learned in 31 years.
1. Don’t be afraid to try new things
Take the risk. You will be surprised at what you are capable off.
2. Distance does not always make the heart grow fonder
I learned this the hard way. Yes, in some situations you don’t have the option to be together 24/7, but you have to make it work. Don’t count on the absence to grow your heart.
3. Love does not always win
Love is a choice and when a choice is made you work on it to your best ability. Everyday, constantly and with passion.
4. Blood is thicker than water
In my life I have never dreamed of being so dependent on my family as I was in 2016. My family supported me and showed me the true value of family. They love me unconditionally and without judgement.
5. I am stronger than I think
I had a very bad run 2015/2016 which led me to being diagnosed with Major Depression at the start of 2016. I was falling apart, but a little flame did not go out. A little flame that was me and that last little bit of hope which surprised even me. I did not think I was going to make it, but I did. I made a choice and that choice saved my life. I learned in this past two years how strong I am and it makes me feel empowered.
6. When God closes one door, a better one is already open.
I have experienced this too often to not believe it with my whole heart. Not only for myself, but for family and friends too. I have been blessed with so many open doors, I lost count.
7. Prayers are answered with a bang
I remember in Sunday school we were taught that prayer works like a robot. Red is a “No”, Orange is “Wait a bit” and Green is a “Yes”. I have always had little patience, but as I grew older the patience grew bit by bit and I learned that waiting patiently on the Lord will reap the blessings set out for me. Prayers will most certainly be answered and sometimes it takes years, but it will be with a bang and a wow.
8. Faith will take you places
It most certainly will. Have faith in yourself. Have faith in God and you will move mountains.
9. Being healthy is not based on being perfect and points to ticked off.
What is the definition of being healthy and perfect? Is it what we believe ourselves to be or what the world tells us to be? I believe it is being comfortable in your own skin. Being able to love yourself because when you love yourself it shines out to the world.
10. Take one day at a time
Being the bit of a control freak I was, made this very difficult for me. I used to plan months ahead. I always lived in the future. I never lived in the moment. Then my world came to a stop and I had to make plans to cancel reservations and pack up everything. That day I realised, it is about today and not tomorrow or months ahead. I learned to stand still and focus on today. It saved my sanity and I am a much calmer person I used to be.
11. A disease or a sickness does not define you
I have been a diabetic my whole life. This year it will be 31 years in October. I am not defined by this. Diabetes is not me, it is only a part of me and I decided to not let it rule my life. I am ruling it.
12. Friends can be miles apart and still be best friends
I have a handful of friends living in different parts of the world, but through technology (that made this world so small), effort and love we have been friends for more than 5, 10, even longer, friends. The best is that when we do see each other, we just pick up where we left off and that is what friendship means to me.
13. People come into your life for a reason, season or a lifetime.
I have experienced this all my life. I have had friends leaving which I mourned like a lost one, I have also had friends return after years and I even made new friends even though they have been a part of my life for years before. They each play a vital and important role. Mourn them when they leave, accept if they do not return and celebrate the new friends.
14. Cool was a word invented by children for children
What is cool really? We always use to say “I am not part of the cool crowd” and “I wish I was cool”, but is “cool” really what you want to be? No, my answer is no. This is a word created on worldly standards, based on what children think is cool. You are your own “cool” and live it out!
15. What you want is on the other side of fear
I can not say this enough. Once you move beyond your fear, you will receive what you want. You will experience greatness and peace. I had a year filled with fear and had to work through it and realise that fear is what we create for our self and you alone can move beyond fear and conquer it; with a little help of course.
16. You need to listen to your gut
Yes, you do. Trust your gut because 99.9% of the time your gut is not wrong. It is your 6th sense warning you.
17. Forgiveness bring peace
It will also set you free. That freedom when the bondage break is the feeling of free and peace in another level. It really sets you free. I am not saying forget it, but file it rather, take the lessons and move on. Remember this, when you do not forgive someone, it is like drinking the poison yourself and hoping the other person will die.
18. Hard work equals great results
This have been proven on more than 1 occasion. It will feel from time to time that no one is noticing your hard work/effort, but keep pushing. Do not give up. Think about an iceberg. We only see the top, meaning the success, but underneath is all the hard work, commitment and discipline.
19. Money can not buy happiness
It can not and never will. Stuff is just that, stuff. Happiness is in yourself and a choice.
20. I am valuable
You are valuable, do not give yourself away so easy. Learn to love yourself and the one that wants you will see that and put in the effort to win you.
21. Put yourself first
It is okay to put yourself first sometimes. You are important too. You and I were not born to please people.
22. Laughter really is the best medicine
Laughter is a cure. Laugh more and laugh often.
23. You are not always hungry
Yup, this is my random lesson. Sometimes you are just thirsty or just bored. Grab that bottle of water and drink up first.
24. Don’t trust easily
I’ve learned that you should not trust to easily. Take your time, people should earn it.
25. Attitude determines a lot of outcomes
Your attitude towards anything will determine the outcome. If you have a shitty attitude towards day or work, you will have a shitty day and hate your work. Wake up with an attitude of gratitude first, you have another day to make a change and then make the decision to be positive. Be positive that this will be the best day ever. Yes, you will have your off days, but try and make that choice to have a positive attitude.
26. A house, a car, your possession do not define you
Memorise this quote: “Hats, boxes, cheese do not make you. You make you.” – Eggs (The Boxtrolls).
27. Be different
Being different is not always a bad thing. You were born to stand out.
28. Do more of what makes you happy
Make time to do more of what you love. This will have a positive impact all around.
29. Friends will appear when you least expect it
Friends found me in the strangest places and situations.They will come into your life when you least expect it and remember the same applies, it will either be for a reason, season or a life time.
30. You always have a choice
Sometimes you are not going to like the choice that you have to make and people might get hurt, but you need to make the choice that will benefit you. There is no such thing like “I don’t have choice”. Do not conform to a norm created by the world. Make the choice and man up.
What have you learned? Go ahead and share below.